Approval Seeking

Fear of disapproval can ruin a human being's life. It makes you overly conscious of what other people think. No mater what you do or don't do, there will always be people who disapprove. Keep your main focus on whether Hashem would approve, and if Hashem approves, then you can conclude that Hashem disapproves of other's disapproval.

from the book, "My father, My King" by Rabbi Zelig Plisking page 91

Approval Seeking is one of the biggest problems that compulsive overeaters face. We have to learn to look to please only Hashem.

Chasing other people's opinions.

People whose opinions of themselves are based on what others think of them, can't think well of themselves. They'll only think well of themselves if they like and respect who they are. Being "told" that they're good people, based on how others react to their actions, is superficial and has little positive long term effects for them.


Since chasing other people's opinions, only appears to achieve its goal, it ends up lasting mere seconds. To sustain this desired good feeling they must continue chasing for more positive reactions. In that sense, attention is sometimes like a drug, offering only a fleeting effect. These people, expecting a long lasting good feeling, tend to become frustrated, angry and, thoroughly, unhappy.


from:
Rabbi Shmuel Gluck       http://www.areivim.com/