Seeing Godliness Beneath a Face

From the Shiur-- Seeing Godliness Beneath a Face by Rebetzin Heller on Aish Audio

When you say something bad about another person that is true (aka Loshon Hara) the person that you are hurting is yourself because you loose your own Kedusha.

When you want to stop speaking loshon Hara your should look for the Kidushah in other people, to put this simply, getting above pettiness

Kedushah- Rabbi Berkovitz-4

From the Shiur Living Your Life with Kedusha by Rav Berkowitz on Aish Audio

Kedusha is the process of finding yourself less and less needy so that you can focus on closeness to Hashem. If you live in a way that you do not need anything physical, you will gain devaikas to Hashem. If you do your histadlus, Hashem will bring you closer to him.