Unconditional Love

Rebbe Nachman of Breslov says that the way to do Teshuva is to be silent and to be quiet when someone insults you.  Why does he use the double language?  To be quiet, is to not say anything back.  To be silent means that even in your head you are at peace. 

from a Shiur by Rabbi Lazer Broday on "Unconditional Love".

As I am working on my fourth step, I find it very difficult to give up certain resentments.  I want to be justified and self righteous.  The key to recovery is to be silent, in our heads.