Remembering that Everything is from Hashem.

Everyone has something in their life that causes them pain. Fighting this pain and resentment is an important battle that we all have to face.  This insight from Al-Anon is very helpful.  As we all know, we have to realize that every thing that happens to us in this world is decreed from above.

Resentment will do nothing except tear us apart inside. No one ever found serenity through hatred. No one ever truly recovered from the effects of alcoholism by harboring anger or fear, or by holding on to grudges. Hostility keeps us tied to the abuses of the past. Even if the alcoholic is long gone from our lives or has refrained from drinking for many years, we, too, need to learn to detach. We need to step back from the memories of alcoholic behavior that continue to haunt us. We begin to detach when we identify the disease of
alcoholism as the cause of the behavior and recognize that our ongoing struggle with unpleasant memories is an effect of that disease. We, too, must find within us compassion for the alcoholic who suffered from this terrible illness.



From How Al-Anon Works for Families and Friends of Alcoholics, page 86,

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