Look for the pure neshomah in your spouse.

Tu'Av is a time of Shiduchim. In light of this I want to share an insight about marriage that Rebbeztin Kalmonovitz told me.  Every person is really only half of their true neshamah, their spouse is the other half.  This might be an upsetting thought at times when we are frustrated with our spouse (which every person experiences at some time).  The way to appreciate this reality is to realize that after we leave this world and go to the world of emes, we will go through a process of spiritual purification, and so will our spouse.  Then our souls will be reunited in their pure states.  Look at your spouse and say to yourself, "there is a pure neshomah inside of him/her that is part of my neshomah"