The only person you need to be accepted by is yourself, and you achieve this by bringing Hashem into our lives. If our lives are focused on doing Hashem's will, we will be pleased with ourselves. We have nothing to fear other than Hashem, becuase nothing is as real as Hashem.
In a Shiur by Shira Smiles on Parshat Viera she said that we have to thank Hashem for what we don't have, not just what we have. She also spoke about the reason that the frogs were such a difficult Maka was that they robbed the Egyptians of their Yishuv Hadas. In light of this I am trying to find a way of thanking Hashem for the fact that I have not had any Yishuv Hadas for almost a year now.
Sometimes when a builder builds a tall building he puts up a scaffolding to help him to build. Would he ever dream of building it out of gold? Of course not, the scaffolding is only temporary. This is a good Mashal of our lives. Our lives are temporary, but the eternal creation of our neshamah is for ever. We should put the emphasis on the eternal creation and not our physical existence. 
When Yakov says, "I lived with Lavan" we learn from this that he kept all 613 mitzvot. How can we say that he kept all of the Mitzvot? The answer that Mrs. Smiles gives is that by learning all of the mitzvot and having the intention to carry them out, to the best of our ability, we are credited with keeping them. She adds that this means not just keeping the mitzvot, but keeping the intent of the mitzvot. She gives the example of Tznius, which does not only mean modest dress, but modest behavior. I was recently reading the following post from Neil Harris: http://uberdox.blogspot.com/2011/11/reb-moshe-and-broken-tape-recorder.html where he told the folloing story that illustrates this idea, of not just learning Torah, but absorbing it.Some years ago, in Rav Reuven Feinstein's yeshiva, there were two boys who had an argument. What happened? Let's call them Reuven and Shimon. Revuen lent his tape recorder to Shimon and Shimon dropped the tape record and it broke. And they were arguing. Revuen said, "I lent you the tape recorder and you broke it. You have to get me a new one."
Shimon says, "It wasn't my fault, it was an accident."
And they were arguing and decided that they would go to the Rosh Yeshiva, which is a good thing. They went to Reb Reuven Feinstein, they went to the Rosh Yeshiva to ask him what's the halacha then. This is what happened. Rav Reuven Feinstein was absolutly astonished by the question. Not with nachas, he was astonished. He said, "You're learning all year since September, your learning the gemara. Everyday you have charts on the blackboard. You're learning the gemara "Bava Metzia" that teaches that when someone borrows something he's responsible when it breaks. If you borrow something you're responsible." Rav Reuven was so distrubed by this. He couldn't understand how's it possible that the boy, how could he not know that? That's all they're learning and they're getting 100s on their tests. שואל חייב באונסין , it's a gemara. It's all over the gemara. If you borrow, you're chai'ev (responsible).
So, he was so upset, Rav Reuven went to his father. He went to Reb Moshe, Zecher Tzaddik V'Kodesh L'Vracha. He went to Reb Moshe and he asked, "How can it be that the boys did not know that?"
So, Reb Moshe said, "Because what they've seen in their lives has no relationship to what they're learning in yeshiva. It's completely irrelevant. They do not see their parents living the lives that they learn in the seforim, nor do they see it so clearly in the yeshiva." That's what Reb Moshe said.
They would never dream of making a connection between what they learned all year and how to practically live. It might have been taught, but it wasn't given over.
The answer is that punishment is not something that Hashem does to take revenge on us, it is something that Hashem brings on us because it is good for us. We understand that everything that Hashem does is for our ultimate good. When we stand in front of Hashem before Rosh Hashanah we may feel discouraged when we think of the ways that we didn't do that we promised we would last year. It is tempting to fall into despair and to feel that there is no use in even trying. We have to know that even when we are deserving of punishment, even though we seem to push Hashem away, he is always there. In an effort to direct us in the right direction, Hashem will send nisyonos our way, but it is not to push us away, it is to bring us closer. To the extent that we are able to nullify ourselves, we become closer to Hashem. 
Pesach is a time of freedom. At this time of the year we are able to use this inherent strength to free ourselves from our Yetzer Harah and from our physical desires.
Everything that Hashem gives us is not given for our physical pleasure, but to help us to grow spiritually. This has to be our focus when we make decisions.
The pusuk says, "This is my God and I will glorify him", what does it mean to glorify Hashem, to glorify the Mitzot. This is one of the sources to explain why we buy a beautiful Esrog, and special Tefilin. When we do the mitzvot in a special way, we are really glorifying ourselves.
A person should always focus on gratitude. When we focus on all of the kindness that Hashem does for use open up new channels of Bracha. We gain the ability to see that life is not about me, and to develop humility. The middah of humility is one of the best ways to acquire Torah.
Hashem did not send the Makos to punish the Egyptians, he sent them to educate them and us. To teach that Hashem runs the world. The Makos reinforced the power and existence of Hashem for all of the world to see. When we see negative things happening in the world, we have to remember that it is coming from Hashem to teach us and not as a punishment. This is also the reason that there are so many mitzvot to remember Yitziat Mitzrayim, to connect us back to our source, to remember that everything in the world is coming from Hashem.
Rav Matisyahu Salamon quotes the Shlah Hakodesh that the parshiyot of Shovavim, which talk about exile and redemption, are a time for us to redeem ourselves spiritually through genuine repentance. These weeks
During the time of Shovavim is a time for us to work on our speech. We have a tremendous power to influence our lives through Tefilah, but if we speak improperly it is like giving the King a precious diamond and wrapping it in a dirty diaper.
Why did Hashem appear to Moshe Rabenu in a flame that did not consume the bush. To teach us that no matter what flame tries to destroy the Jew he will continue to survive. We have to have faith in our ability to continue.
When we light the Chanukah candles and say the Bracha, "L Hodos u L'Hallel" our thanks and praises create an Eit Ratzon, a time when we are especially close to Hashem. We should use this time to ask Hashem for special requests.
When we feel that we’re missing something, we often feel sad. A Jew’s soul naturally thirsts for spirituality. Filling this void with material things only creates a false sense of happiness. We need to ask ourselves, “How much do I enjoy Torah and mitzvot and developing a connection with Hashem?” If we don’t feel a bond with our Creator, then there is no desire to create beauty and joy in the relationship. We need to work on bringing Hashem into our personal lives and infusing our avoda with passion and enthusiasm. When we have an awareness of where we come from, our achievements and goals, and where we are ultimately headed, then we can begin to understand the purpose of life.
How was it that Esav was able to decieve Yitzchak? The answer is that he looked like a Tzadik, he learned Torah, but he did not internalize it and make it part of himself. We have to be careful when we learn something to examine ourselves and see how we can make a change in our lives.
