Rabbi Yom Tov Glasser gives the Moshol of a person watching a movie in a movie theater that is very emotional. On the screen, a little child is crying. You feel so bad for the child that you run to the screen and try to hug the child, but really you are hugging the screen.
If we saw someone jump off of a roof, flap his wings and try to fly, we would never try to imitate it. So why is it that we see people do destructive behaviors and suffer the consequences and yet we still do these destructive acts. The reason is that our Yetzer Hara will always give us reasons to legitimize something that we strongly desire.
One of the most beneficial things I have learned from my Al-Anon experience is to be consistent in my thoughts, words, and actions. In my alcoholic home, I learned to mask uncomfortable situations with words and actions I thought would promote harmony. I have since learned that agreeing with others simply to keep peace causes me to be resentful. As difficult as it may be, today I won't automatically concur with the thoughts and opinions of others. If I have a different point of view, I express it, then let go of the other's reaction. I practice "Live and Let Live" and "Let Go and Let God."
Acceptance means putting aside the wish that our situation could be
My reading this week has been about realizing that Hashem is running the world, seems obvious, but it is not easy to really internalize. I read something that suggested that once we learn to make intelligent food choices on a consistent basis, we can apply the concept of careful decision making to every choice we make in our lives, focusing on doing Hashem's will. In essence, taking the self control that we have learned from OA and applying it throughout our spiritual life. Now that I have over a year of abstinence, eating food to fuel my body and not my desires, I can see where the focus of my work has to be.
The Yetzer Hara is a nag, the voice of the Yetzer Hara keeps coming back and coming back. But the Yetzer Tov comes softly. It plants an idea in your head, then it goes away. Then it flits back, then it goes away again. 
How is it that some people live double lives. They keep the mitzvot and they act like frum people, but they do sins in private. This comes from the fact that Hashem made us afraid of people but not afraid of Hashem. Hashem did this to maintain our free will. If we would truly have Yiras Chet (fear of sin) to the same extent that we fear people, we would not have free choice.
Do not allow an attitude of fatalism to masquerade as Bitachon. It is easy to say, "whatever happens is Hashem's will, so I can do whatever I want, because Hashem is running the show." We have to know that Hashem runs the world according to normal rules of nature, and if we break them, we will face the consequences. You can not drink poison and think that nothing will happen if Hashem was not planning on it. You have to take responsibility for your actions.
