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Sanctify yourself through the permissible... Yevamos 20a

Divrei Torah to provide Chizuk in the struggle to balance spiritual and physical needs.

L'Iluei Nishmas Mirkah Bas Yosef




Thursday, December 23, 2010

The importance of our choices.

My reading this week has been about realizing that Hashem is running the world, seems obvious, but it is not easy to really internalize. I read something that suggested that once we learn to make intelligent food choices on a consistent basis, we can apply the concept of careful decision making to every choice we make in our lives, focusing on doing Hashem's will. In essence, taking the self control that we have learned from OA and applying it throughout our spiritual life. Now that I have over a year of abstinence, eating food to fuel my body and not my desires, I can see where the focus of my work has to be.

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Monday, December 20, 2010

Using the gift of Tefilah.

During the time of Shovavim is a time for us to work on our speech. We have a tremendous power to influence our lives through Tefilah, but if we speak improperly it is like giving the King a precious diamond and wrapping it in a dirty diaper.


from the Shiur on Naaleh:
Parshat Shemot: Fabulous Flame
Teacher: Mrs. Shira Smiles Class: Parsha Topics 5769

Sunday, December 19, 2010

No matter what flame tries to destroy the Jew he will continue to survive.

Why did Hashem appear to Moshe Rabenu in a flame that did not consume the bush.  To teach us that no matter what flame tries to destroy the Jew he will continue to survive.  We have to have faith in our ability to continue.

Every Jew has to ask "why did the Jews continue despite all of the hardships through the years".  Even if a Jew is totally cut off from everything, he still has a responsibility to recognize the miracle of the on going existence of the Jews.

from a Shiur on Naaleh
Parshat Shemot: Fabulous Flame
Teacher: Mrs. Shira Smiles Class: Parsha Topics 5769

This reminded me of the following quote:
Mark Twain and The Jews


”...If statistics are right, the Jews constitute but one percent of the human race. It suggests a nebulous dim puff of stardust lost in the blaze of the Milky way. properly, the Jew ought hardly to be heard of, but he is heard of, has always been heard of. He is as prominent on the planet as any other people, and his commercial importance is extravagantly out of proportion to the smallness of his bulk. His contributions to the world’s list of great names in literature, science, art, music, finance, medicine, and abstruse learning are also away out of proportion to the weakness of his numbers. He has made a marvelous fight in this world, in all the ages; and had done it with his hands tied behind him. He could be vain of himself, and be excused for it.



The Egyptian, the Babylonian, and the Persian rose, filled the planet with sound and splendor, then faded to dream-stuff and passed away; the Greek and the Roman followed; and made a vast noise, and they are gone; other people have sprung up and held their torch high for a time, but it burned out, and they sit in twilight now, or have vanished. The Jew saw them all, beat them all, and is now what he always was, exhibiting no decadence, no infirmities of age, no weakening of his parts, no slowing of his energies, no dulling of his alert and aggressive mind. All things are mortal but the Jew; all other forces pass, but he remains. What is the secret of his immortality?”



- Mark Twain

(“Concerning The Jews,” Harper’s Magazine, 1899

A spiritual kind of hunger.

... A spiritual kind of hunger, the more we feed it, the hungrier we feel.  Because we have been conditioned to respond to lack by feeding it, which works in the physical dimension, we intuitively extrapolate this "solution" to the inner void.  We believe that the way to deal with all desires is to give in to them, to give them what they demand, and then they'll be satisfied and stop bothering us.

However, the opposite is true.  The more that you give in to certain desires, the more desire you feel.  The more that you feed the fire, the bigger the fire rages.

From Battle Plans by Rebbetzin Heller and Sara Yoheved Rigler  page 72

Who is strong- the person who controls himself.

I was so moved when I read this that I had to share it:
All of my life I have heard the saying, "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink." I have even said it myself countless times. But it was not until Al-Anon that I genuinely UNDERSTOOD it. That horse may be showing signs of dehydration. It may be so weak that it can barely walk. I love the horse and don't want to watch it die. It hasn't had water in days and I just "know" that it will be better if it would just drink some. But out of love, healthy love, I am dropping the reigns; if the horse is thirsty, it will drink.

If it’s not, what makes me think that--shoving its face in the water, prying open its mouth and choking it with the cup I force down its throat--- is being helpful? It will likely only vomit back my efforts.

As I put down the reigns, I will pick up my skirt, tuck it under my legs and kneel at the spring of recovery to drink from it myself. I will go back to that spring every day, sometimes several times a day. Perhaps my "horse" will notice how healthy I am becoming and will want to try it for himself. Perhaps not. Regardless, I refuse to die of dehydration myself.

Check out these new recipes on our recipe exchange!

Crustless Fruit Tart
Black Bean Soup

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Why is the "Hand of Hashem" all but imprerceptible?

Why does the Divine Providence present itself in this manner, blending miracles in the natural process, making the "Hand of Hashem" all but imperceptible? ... The answer to this question is to be found in the necessity to enable man to enjoy freedom of choice.  If man wishes he can discern the "Hand of God" in the innermost recesses of the most natural event and on the other hand he can disregard it int the most blatant of circumstances.

from the Sefer "Reb Chaim's Discourses"
The shmussen of the Mirrer Rosh Yeshiva Rabbi Chaim Shmulevitz ztl page 105

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Bilvavi Miskan Evneh in New York Dec. 26




Rav Itamar Shwartz will be in Flatbush, Far Rockaway, and Woodmere this coming Sunday and Monday, Dec. 26th & 27th. See below for the Schedule:


Sunday, Dec. 26th

Flatbush - Cong. Sheves Achim - 1517 Ave. H (corner E. 16th, across from Q train - But on this particular Sunday, the Q does not stop there in either direction. One would have to get off at either Ave J or Newkirk, and walk about three blocks)



Rav Itamar Shwartz, the author of the Bilvavi Mishkan Evneh and Da Es Atzmecha seforim, will be giving a one day intensive seminar on Avodas Hashem in the winter Shovavim time. The shiurim will be at 12 PM, 1:15 PM, 2:30 PM.



There is a $20 suggested donation for admission and sponsorships are encouraged. Admission includes all three shiurim and a free mp3 CD of the Rav's drashos. Donations are tax deductable and all proceeds will go to enable the publication of more seforim in Hebrew and English.



English and Hebrew seforim and mp3 CDs will be on sale at the drashos at a discount.



It is preferred if you register in advance. Please CLICK HERE to register. The Rav is available to meet with people privately to discuss inyanim in Avodas Hashem after the Flatbush seminar by appointment only. Please contact Benyomin Wolf at 212-715-9417, 516-668-6397, or benbenabe@aol.com.



Monday, Dec. 27th



Far Rockaway, NY - White Shul library - 728 Empire Ave

8:45-9:15 AM



The shiur is after the 7:30 minyan and before the 9:30 minyan



The shiur will take place in the White Shul's library and will be a va'ad on inyanei Shovavim.



5:30-6:15 PM

Agudath Israel of Long Island -

Far Rockaway, NY - 1121 Sage St.

Shiur on inyanei Shovavim



Woodmere, NY

8 PM - Monday night, December 27th at 8:00 PM.



Rav Itamar Shwartz, the author of the Bilvavi Mishkan Evneh

and Da Es Atzmecha seforim will be speaking in the Shul



The shiur is open to men and women.



The Rav speaks in an easy-to-understand Hebrew, and the topic of the shiur will

be Shovavim. We are looking for sponsorships for the shiur, which will be used to enable the publication of more of the Rav's seforim in both English

and Hebrew.



Please contact Benyomin Wolf at 212-715-9417, 516-668-6397, or benbenabe@aol.com to sponsor the shiur. Donations are tax deductable.



English and Hebrew seforim, as well as mp3 CDs will be available for sale at the shiur.

The Tenth of Tevet

One day commemorates a variety of Jewish tragedies.

by Rabbi Berel Wein    http://www.aish.com/h/10t/48960111.html
 
The Tenth of Tevet is one of the four fast days that commemorate dark times in Jewish history. The others are Tisha B'Av (the day of the destruction of both Temples in Jerusalem), the 17th of Tammuz (the day of the breaching of the defensive wall of Jerusalem by Titus and the Roman legions in 70 CE), and the third of Tishrei (the day that marks the assassination of the Babylonian-appointed Jewish governor of Judah, Gedaliah ben Achikam. He was actually killed on Rosh Hashana but the fast day was advanced to the day after Rosh Hashana because of the holiday).




The Tenth of Tevet is viewed as such a severe and important fast day that it is observed even if it falls on a Friday.The Tenth of Tevet marks the onset of the siege of Jerusalem by Nebuchadnezzar, the King of Babylonia, and the beginning of the battle that ultimately destroyed Jerusalem and the Temple of Solomon, and sent the Jews into the 70-year Babylonian Exile. The date of the Tenth of Tevet is recorded for us by the prophet Yechezkel, who himself was already in Babylonia as part of the first group of Jews exiled there by Nebuchadnezzar, 11 years earlier than the actual destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem itself.



The Tenth of Tevet is viewed as such a severe and important fast day that it is observed even if it falls on a Friday (erev Shabbat), while our other fast days are so arranged by calendar adjustments as to never fall on a Friday, so as not to interfere with Shabbat preparations.



GREEK TRANSLATION



However, there are other commemorative days that fall immediately before the Tenth of Tevet and their memory has been silently incorporated in the fast day of the Tenth of Tevet as well. On the eighth of Tevet, King Ptolemy of Egypt forced 70 Jewish scholars to gather and translate the Hebrew Bible into Greek. Even though the Talmud relates to us that this project was blessed with a miracle -- the 70 scholars were all placed in separate cubicles and yet they all came up with the same translation -- the general view of the rabbis of the time towards this project was decidedly negative. The Talmud records that when this translation became public "darkness descended on the world."



The 'koshering' of the Greek language by its use in translating the Hebrew Bible had wide ramifications in Jewish society.This translation -- the Septuagint -- eventually became the basis for the Old Testament section of the Christian bible a few centuries later. The Greek translation of the Bible also further aided the advance of the agenda of the Hellenist Jews to bring Greek culture into Jewish life, and to attempt to reform Judaism in the image of Greek values and lifestyle. The "koshering" of the Greek language by its use in translating the Hebrew Bible had wide ramifications in Jewish society and undermined some of the efforts of the rabbis in combating the allure of Greece in Israel of then.



DEATH OF EZRA THE SCRIBE



The ninth day of Tevet is held to be the day of the death of Ezra the Scribe. This great Jew is comparable even to Moses in the eyes of the Talmud. "If the Torah had not been granted through Moses, it could have been granted to Israel through Ezra." Ezra led the return of the Jews to Jerusalem from their Babylonian exile. It was under his direction and inspiration, together with the help of the court Jew, Nechemiah, that the Second Temple was built, albeit originally in a much more modest scale and style than the grandeur of Solomon's Temple.



Ezra also renewed the covenant of Moses between Israel and God, staunched the flow of intermarriage that afflicted the Jews returning to Jerusalem, strengthened public and private Sabbath observance, and created the necessary schools and intellectual tools for the furtherance of the knowledge and development of the Oral Law of Sinai within the Jewish people.



A man of incorruptible character, great compassion, deep vision and erudition and inspirational charisma, Ezra the Scribe is responsible for the survival of Judaism and the Jews till this very day. It is no wonder therefore that Jews marked the day of his death as a sad day on the Jewish calendar. Since fasting on the eighth, ninth and 10th days of Tevet consecutively would be unreasonable, the events of the eighth and ninth were subsumed into the fast day of the Tenth of Tevet.



COMBINING DAYS



The rabbinic policy has been to attach other sad commemorations onto the established fast days, so as not to fill the calendar with so many days of sad remembrances. Thus the memorial for the destruction of the Jewish communities of Worms, Speyers and Mainz by the Crusaders in 1096 is marked on the fast day of Tisha B'Av, even though that destruction actually took place in other months.



This policy of minimizing the number of days of commemoration of sad events became accepted practice throughout the Jewish world until the Holocaust. However, the enormity of the tragedy of the Holocaust subsumed everything that preceded it in the story of the Jewish people in the Diaspora. Hence, it is understandable why the Knesset would look to designate a specific day alone for Holocaust remembrance. Nevertheless, the rabbinic policy of minimizing days of tragic remembrances played a role in assigning the Holocaust remembrance to the Tenth of Tevet for a large section of the Israeli population.



May we only commemorate days of goodness in our future.

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

The Trap of Consumerism from Reb. Heller on Naaleh

You have to choose what you are going to be pursuing,  everyone has to pursue something, this is the inner drive of man.  The pasuk says that "a man is created to toil". your choice is not if you are going to want, your choice is to choose something of value.

from the Shiur on Naaleh: The Trap of Consumerism

Teacher: Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller Class: Yechezkel II
 This shiur is really worth watching.

People do not make choices based on pleasure.

 The thing that makes a person choose one thing over another is his awareness of something empty that he wants to fill.  Some people are only able to feel strongly about material lacks, since they perceive that what they are lacking is material pleasure.  .Other people realize that their real lack is spiritual. 

from the Shiur on Naaleh: The Trap of Consumerism

Teacher: Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller Class: Yechezkel II
Added: December 13, 2010

The Bracha of Self Knowledge

The Bracha of Yakov to his children is the Bracha of Self Knowledge.  One of the greatest tragedies that can happen is to live our lives without using our potential.  At the end of our lives, it will matter more if we lived up to our potential, then how much we accomplished.  If we do not know what we are capable of , we will not know how much we can do.  It is important to do a real Chesbon Hanefesh and speak to people that we respect who know us to gain an understanding of our true potential.

from a Shiur by Shira Smiles on Parshat Vayechie

Monday, December 13, 2010

Sometimes we are like a salomander that needs to shed his skin in order to grow

.  Sometimes when we are suffering the most it is to clear the way for real growth.  Yakov complained to his sons, "why did you tell the man I had another son"  Yakov thought that this was a horrible thing that was happening that Benyomin had to go down to Egypt, he did not realize that it was the beginging of the redemption.

from the Shiur on Naaleh: Suffering
Teacher: Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller Class: Bitachon: Meaning of Trust

Working on Gratitude.

Gratitude takes us to a higher place of connection to Hashem then anything else.

from a shiur on Naaleh: Suffering

Teacher: Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller Class: Bitachon: Meaning of Trust

Saturday, December 11, 2010

The intrinsic value of Eretz Yisrael.

In bentching we refer to Eretz Yisrael as a land that is "Rachava" wide or expansive   To say that Eretz Yisrael is holy, or special, we can understand, but how can we describe it as expansive?  The answer is that something that is intrinsically very valuable is precious even if we only have a small amount.  A diamond the size of an orange would be extremely valuable, but an orange is not that valuable.  Eretz Yisrael is so special that even a tiny amount would be very special.  The amount that we do have is considered expansive, based on it's value.

from a Shiur about Chanukah by Rabbi Wachsman
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