Am I responbible for my spouse's sins?

This week I had the zechus to drive home Rebbeztin Kalmonovitz and we were discussing the fact the the neshamah of a husband and a wife are really one neshamah.  I asked her if this means that we are responsible for our spouse's sins, and what happens when we are reunited in shamayim.  She said that each person goes through a soul correction when they get to shamayim, then you are reunited with a purified neshamah.  This is a very powerful insight because it give us a framework to understand the extent of our responsibilities of ours spouse's actions.  It also means that we can't blame our spouse, and say whats the use.  We  will pay for only our own actions, but we will pay for them. 

She also mentioned that if a wife acts with sincerity and creates a warm and loving home with the intention of supporting her husband in learning, but he goes out and secretly does something else, she is rewarded as if she facilitated his learning.

She also added that when one is frustrated by something that there spouse does, it helps to think to yourself that inside of this person is a pure neshamah that I am going to be reunited with in the future.