Insight from a Shabbos Afternoon Smooze

This Shabbos I was discussing OA with a friend.  I mentioned to her that OA is very big on helping us to accept our share of responsibility for the problems in our life.  Sometimes it is hard to know what our part of the problem is.  My friend gave me a great insight.  She said , "If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem."